Fated, But Not Predetermined

J. Keith Hughey


Volume XXI, Number 24 (Issue 1028) June 12, 2023

Fated, But Not Predetermined

I have spent seventy-five percent of my career being either self-employed or as a named, at-risk partner in a professional services firm. Based on that single data point, you can conclude I enjoy being my own boss. Additionally, the average duration of the four intervals where I did work for someone else was three years. One can reasonably conclude therefore that I am confident in my own abilities (the occasional episode of imposter syndrome aside). I am willing to take risks where I feel I have a measure of control. I sometimes struggle when expected to play well with others.

Furthermore, since there have been no fewer than seven economic cycles since I graduated from college, one can feel certain I married a saint. That is because a lesser individual would not have put up with my assorted faults, not to mention my heavy travel schedule that frequently required her to raise our children almost single-handedly. Why she stuck with me during those trials – particularly in the lean years when the little cashflow we had was predominantly outbound – is beyond comprehension.

There is also the matter of my decision to allow a successful (and lucrative) consulting practice to wither on the vine while I spent two years retooling myself. Making matters worse, this abrupt change in direction took place at a time when we had college-age children. For the record, my rationale for choosing that risky course was two-fold. First, I had lost interest in what I was doing (burnout?). Secondly, I was feeling called to do something vastly different with my knowledge, talents, and gifts.

Another thing you should know about me: on three occasions I was asked to serve as a rainmaker for the firm I was with at the time. Though I was successful on all three occasions, it was never fully satisfying. As I have reflected on the highs and lows of my career, the best periods involved those times when I was able to engage in a long-term relationship with a client. Thus, what I eventually realized is that while I can enjoy success in a sales role, in my heart I am an individual contributor. Thus, every time I was asked to focus exclusively on sales, I would yearn for the day when I could return to collaborating with clients.

So, here I sit nearly five decades into my career feeling incredibly blessed. I have an incredible spouse who supports me unequivocally, four successful, grown children, thirteen grandchildren with a fourteenth on the way, clients I respect,

admire, and feel fortunate to know and work for, a vocation that makes a positive difference in the lives of others, friends and associates who enrich my life, and a faith foundation that informs my values and behaviors on a daily basis.

Is my life perfect? No, but I am genuinely happy. Am I finished? I hope not, but that is not entirely my call. Can things be better? Can I do better? Absolutely!

Those last questions are the crux of today’s message. Each of us has received a set of gifts meant to be used for the benefit of others. Whether you and I discover them at twenty-five, forty-five, or sixty-five is not as important as whether we acknowledge, hone, and apply them. That is what really matters!

Soli Deo Gloria

“The Lord bless you and keep you; the Lord make his face shine on you and be gracious to you; the Lord turn his face toward you and give you peace.” Numbers 6:24-26

J. Keith Hughey

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