Volume XXIV, Number 6 (Issue 1167) February 9, 2026
Community Matters
There was a widower who lived outside of town. Before his wife died, the couple had been active in their community including regulars in their church attendance. But after her passing, the gentleman found it increasingly easy to stay home. He even began skipping Sunday services. The pastor, having noticed his absence, decided to call on him. Thus, one snowy evening there was a knock on the man’s door. When he opened the door, there stood the pastor. He invited him in and offered him a cup of hot tea and a seat in front of a warm fire. Following some basic pleasantries the pastor stood, walked to the fireplace, and picking up the tongs he removed a large glowing coal from the fire. He then placed the ember on the hearth. Next, the pastor returned to his seat without a word. Soon, the hot coal began to cool, and as it did, its color turned from brilliant orange to an ashen gray. At this point the pastor again rose from his chair, and taking the tongs, he returned the coal to the fire where it once again began to glow brightly.
After a few more minutes the pastor stood and made a move for the door to leave. As he stepped outside, he turned to his host and said, “hope to see you in church on Sunday.” The widower responded, “Message received. I will see you on Sunday.”
I do not remember where I heard this story of the lonely ember – probably in church given the focus, cast of characters, and details. I do, however, have a vague recollection of having shared this story before – if not in a long-ago Musings, then in a speaking engagement, classroom setting, or client engagement. Therefore, if this is a rehash of something I have shared with you in the past, my apologies.
My best and only excuse is I believe this is a timely message whether we are talking about a church community, a work setting, or civic organization, the point is the same. We are (were meant to be) part of a larger body. Our absence is noticed and felt. And you and I are best able to fulfill our role when we are part of a larger group than when we try to live and operate in isolation.
Accordingly, the next time you feel it is okay to stand on the sideline, to allow/expect others to do the heavy lifting, or that you and your contribution will not be missed, consider this: our lives and the lives of others are enriched, and our efforts are multiplied when we are an active part of a community.
Soli Deo Gloria
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24-25
J. Keith Hughey
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